So there I was, aged 29 and had only ever been with one man. I like sex, I enjoy it, it makes me feel good. But unfortunately my husband, five years into our eleven year relationship, had lost all interest in sex.
This led to several problems, in our relationship and for me personally. I took it personally, I gained weight, I felt unattractive, I comfort ate, I gained more weight...... We argued, we grew further and further apart. And I grew increasingly sexually frustrated.
I took steps by myself to deal with this, Ann Summers got a lot of my business, and the Rampant Rabbit deluxe got me through some tough times.
The fact that I had gained so much weight meant that looking outside the marriage for sex seemed unthinkable. I felt so unattractive that I thought nobody would want me.
Two things changed this - the attentions of an old boyfriend who never quite went away, and my decision to lose some weight.
Malcolm is an old old friend. We met and had a summer romance when we were both 19, and ten years later we were still in touch. He would diligently keep in touch by text and phone, no matter where in the world he was, and if I was drunk, I would engage in some naughty texting. He would often ask to meet me... but I hadn't seen him in person since I was 21 and I was sure that if we met again he wouldn't fancy me any more. And I so loved the fact that he did fancy me from afar.... I didn't want to lose that. So I constantly put him off, which he put down to me not trusting him. Ack!
But then I started to lose weight and gain a tiny amount of confidence. Plus I started to confide in Malcolm what was going on in my marriage - I probably shouldn't have, but I did. And he spent months telling me that I was not the one to blame, it was not me being unattractive, I was sexy, I was hot........ until I believed enough that if we met he wouldn't vomit at the very sight of me.
And then came the first adventure - he came to visit on 12th December 2008. He booked a room in a hotel in town, he was in for just one night.
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